Defining Gender Roles

I can't believe it - AJ turns two years old today! It seems like she was just born yesterday. Now she's communicating in full sentences and potty training and "stating her independence" (read - saying "NO!" a lot).

I have to admit that AJ has been more ready to give up her diapers than I have. She is probably my last baby, so this time is so precious to me. Before I know it, she'll be "stating her independence" as a teenager, and Aly - who is turning 13 in a couple weeks - is making it quite clear how much fun that is!

I have to remember that each of them deserve the same amount of patience. Both stages are wonderous times where children explore their capabilities and limitations, and they want to understand their impact on the world around them. It's my job to let their jobs be as safe and fun as possible.

The other concept we're exploring at our house is gender roles and gender neutrality. AJ's birthday is featuring Finding Nemo decorations, a blue and orange color scheme, and a Pirate Ship inflatable pool. No princess parties here!

At the same time, my sister (our resident Cultural Anthropology major and "gender neutral expert") is having a fit because I bought AJ a toy kitchen as her birthday present. I don't see a problem with "enforcing this stereotype," as my sister says.

Frankly, I think that girls AND BOYS should be encouraged to roleplay in kitchens. Our society cooks a lot less these days and our health is suffering because of it. And I definitely know a couple Mama's Boys who could have benefitted from understanding that a dish brush is their friend!

In the end, my goal is to provide a variety of toys and activities that show both of my girls that they can do anything they want to, if they put their minds to it. With Democratic presidential candidates breaking color and gender barriers down, I truly know that the sky is the limit for them!